No, this isn’t one of those “think positive!” posts. Those drive me crazy, because you can’t think yourself out of a situation simply by being positive.  Don’t get me wrong, a positive outlook can help you find the strength to get through a tough time, but…what if we need to have those “dark” moments?  What if we need to delve into the dark side of ourselves in order to heal?

When we focus our attention on something, we tend to experience more of it.  You can play around with this idea by counting the number of red cars you see while driving to work, for example.  I guarantee you’ll see more of them when you are looking for them.

We can bring into our notice good things or bad ones.  This doesn’t mean, however, that you are “attracting” bad things into your life.   Simply that you are noticing them, perhaps more than you should.

This is why changing perspective is so important.  You can train yourself to see more positive things, which can lift your mood, which can then help you take positive steps…  See where I’m going with this?  Sometimes our perspective needs to get a change of view so we can see the value in a certain action or decision.




Why delve into the shadow side of ourselves?  Won’t this make my life more negative?



Actually, this is where the healing needs to happen.  We need to learn to love and accept all of who we are, the good, bad, and the in-between.  How do we do that?



Focusing our energy on supportive, healing steps is a good start:
  • Journaling – try writing letters to your younger self, showing the love, acceptance, and forgiveness you didn’t get from others.
  • Affirmations – these can help you find peace, as well as lift your spirits.  Affirmations are also helpful with reinforcing positive habits.
  • Mirror work – looking into a mirror while repeating an affirmation can bolster confidence.  It is also a great way to find out what needs healing deep inside.
  • Trigger work – Pay attention to what upsets you on a personal level. These things often lead to childhood wounds that need to be addressed.
  • Meditation – Guided meditations can be helpful, especially when you’re just starting out.  Meditation has many benefits.


Observing from a neutral place helps us gain perspective and put energy into something productive, rather than reactive. Then, when we act, we are able to focus on the moment and make genuine changes.

So, go ahead and focus on what needs to be addressed. Even the “negative” bits, because they need your attention to be transformed.


Enjoy my short meditation for refocusing your energy:




Disclaimer:  Linden Tree Intuitive would like to remind you to consult with your doctor for all things medical.  We do not diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any illness or disease.  All material in this blog is for informational purposes only, and you are encouraged to do your own research and question everything!



Lizbeth Russell, M.Ed, HHP, RMT received her Holistic Health Practitioner diploma (High Honors) through the American College of Healthcare Sciences in Portland, Oregon, She is a Wellness Mentor, Herbalist, and Kundalini Reiki Master-Teacher, guiding clients on their path to self-love by creating an oasis of self-care.


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